Can We Find Perfect Love?

Mind-Body-Spirit | love, eros, philia, agape

October 14, 2015 | by Fateen Jackson

Fateen Jackson performing The Quest for the Meaning of Perfect Love spoken word piece.

Fateen Jackson

I was inspired to write “The Quest for the Meaning of Perfect Love,” a spoken word piece, because I wanted to believe that it was possible to experience perfect love. But I have to ask myself: What is perfect love? Is it a love without struggle, hardship, and pain? And, if so, how will I actually know that I’m experiencing this perfect love, and who or what is the source of it?

I used the five types of love discussed in the Bible, yet relatable to everyone, whether religious or not. I used these types of love as a guide to find the meaning of a perfect love:

  • Epithumia (greedy, selfish, evil love) at 4:00;
  • Eros (romantic love) at 5:58;
  • Storge (stor-gay - familial love) at 8:10;
  • Philia (brotherhood, sisterhood, friendship love) at 12:55;
  • Agape (ah-gop-ay - God’s love, unconditional love) at 14:24.

This piece is designed to take the viewer on a journey with me to find this perfect love, which can be elusive. Ultimately, it is found through full acceptance of life experiences and inner peace.

As you view this video, I urge you to think about your own idea of perfect love, and ask yourself, am I experiencing that and if not, how can I?

Fateen Jackson - The Quest For the Meaning of Love, Perfect Love that is

Fateen Jackson is a spoken word poet, graduate, and co-facilitator of Guiding Rage Into Power (GRIP) at San Quentin, a year-long transformative program that provides prisoners tools to “turn the stigma of being a violent offender into being a non-violent Peacemaker.”

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